If you’ve spent any time on my website, watched my videos, listened to my podcasts, or taken one of my courses, you know I have a lot to say about the swinger lifestyle.
But I don’t know everything.
And frankly, I don’t think any one creator should pretend they do.
A huge part of exploring the lifestyle is doing your research, hearing different perspectives, learning the terminology, understanding etiquette, and figuring out what actually works for you.
That’s why I wanted to introduce you to Sex Guide 101.
A huge library of sex-positive information
Sex Guide 101 is basically a giant adult education library.
They cover everything from sex and relationships to consent, safer sex, kink, fantasies, sexual health and, of course, the swinger lifestyle.
What I particularly like is that you don’t need to already know what you’re looking for. You can start with a basic question and disappear down a rabbit hole of articles.
And when you’re new to the lifestyle, sometimes that’s exactly what you need.
New to swinging? Start here
One section worth bookmarking is their collection of swinger beginner guides.
It covers some of the questions people ask when they’re first exploring consensual non-monogamy, including what swinging actually is, communication, boundaries, finding partners and different relationship dynamics.
Because before worrying about what happens at a swinger club, it’s probably a good idea to understand what the hell everyone is talking about first.
Learn the etiquette before you walk through the door
One article I particularly recommend is Navigating the Lifestyle: Swinger Etiquette for Beginners.
This is a subject I’m pretty passionate about.
Being successful in the lifestyle isn’t just about finding people you’re attracted to. It’s about communication, consent, boundaries, handling rejection like an adult, reading the room and understanding that nobody owes you anything.
The article gets into many of those basics, including approaching people, respecting boundaries, safer sex, hygiene, jealousy and some of the social dynamics you’ll encounter.
If you’re thinking about attending your first lifestyle event or club, it’s worth reading beforehand.
Wait…what does that word mean?
The lifestyle also has its own vocabulary.
Swingers. Unicorns. Bulls. Hotwives. Soft swap. Full swap. Same-room play. Separate-room play.
When you’re brand new, conversations can occasionally sound like everyone else received a dictionary that you somehow missed.
Sex Guide 101 has an entire swinger terms and definitions section that can help you understand some of the terminology you’ll encounter.
My experience + more perspectives = better information
What I teach through Toronto Unicorn and Level Up comes heavily from real-world experience.
I’ve spent years inside lifestyle clubs, attending events, meeting people, interviewing members of the community, making mistakes, learning lessons and sharing what I’ve discovered along the way.
That’s the perspective I can give you.
But I also think you should learn from more than one person.
Read articles. Listen to other educators. Talk to experienced people. Learn about consent and sexual health. Ask questions. Then decide what makes sense for your own relationship, boundaries and comfort level.
Sex Guide 101 gives you another massive resource to add to that toolbox.
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Sex Guide 101 also publishes a newsletter featuring sex-positive education, tips, lifestyle information and contributions from different voices in the community.
And yes, you’ll occasionally find Toronto Unicorn in there too.
I’m collaborating with Sex Guide 101 to contribute some of my own lifestyle advice and experience to their readers, which is one of the reasons I’m happy to point my audience toward what they’re building.
You can explore Sex Guide 101 and check out their past newsletter issues to see the kinds of topics they cover.
The more educated you are before jumping into the lifestyle, the better equipped you’ll be to make choices that actually work for you.
Stay curious. Ask questions. Do your research. And never stop learning.
Disclaimer: This post was created as part of a content collaboration with Sex Guide 101. I only recommend resources I believe may be genuinely useful to my audience.